I just had the awesome opportunity of making one of the greatest impressions upon my daughter’s heart. My youngest daughter has a show on The Word Network, and she has to go to Detroit along with her husband to record. If you have never watched the show, you should bless yourself one Saturday at 1:30 pm est. They should pay me for that plug (LOL). My husband and I were guests on the first set of recordings, so I had to go then, but this time I just felt compelled to go. I waited until the last minute to decide because I tried to figure out why was I going, but I could not shake it. I hopped on the plane, flew to Detroit and stayed for both days of taping. While I was resting one evening, I began to meditate on the trip and realized that I did not come just because I wanted to, but my daughter needed me. She needed me just to be there. Mind you, she has help for the show so I did not go to help. Nevertheless, I did end up helping quite a bit even if it was just in the audience to clap and shout for her guest which caused me to be light headed after 2 hours of hollering (LOL). I am sure, without a doubt, she appreciated all of my help.
My going was deeper than that. For my daughter to see me drop all that I had to do just to be a part of what God is doing in her life was priceless. No amount of money or clothes could ever replace the smile that was in her heart because I was there. She saw the honor and respect that I have for what she is doing. She had the opportunity to see my care demonstrated. People are tired of hearing about how much you care it’s time to show them. I sat back like the proud momma watching every move, every smile, and every decision she made. If I never go again, she saw that she comes before anybody in our ministry or outside of my family. I don’t ever want my children to ask, “What about me?” Sweet tears are rolling down my cheeks now even as I type this because regardless of how old my children are I want to always avail myself to them. They still appreciate the fact that I care. It is sad that sometimes we stop and do stuff for others much faster than we do for those that care the most about us. I have been in ministry for 25 years and there is no doubt that somewhere along the line I have put others before my kids. This particular day I was determined to shut everybody down to spend time creating a mark that will last forever. When I am gone to be with Jesus I want them to recall great memories of me and not just when they were kids but even as adults.
My sister, pay attention to your loved ones and always try to be present in moments that count. We take so many things and people for granted, and we put off what sometimes we never have an opportunity to get back. Look around you and see the beauty of your family and friends and embrace them with your presence. Just because you see them all the time does not mean you are spending quality time or making impact. Don’t allow your loved ones to be looking for you while you are standing right there. That would be a tragedy. I love you, my sister!
Family matters! Her children will rise up and call her BLESSED! Thank you for the reminder.
AWESOME DEMONSTRATION OF LOVE…..💖
Good Morning Dr. DeeDee,
Again, another reality message of such significance.
Thank you for being a blessings to us all.
Thanks for the parenting and relationship tips! Just read something from Bishop Jakes about how important relationships are, how God uses people to be a blessing and impact others through the transfer in relationships….relationships are important. Then this blog knocked it out the park for me. I hear God speaking to me through both of these blogs and I’m listening ready to do my part. Thanks Dr. DeeDee…love you my sister/mother
Ps. Was planning to attend the tapings in Detorit but my nephew graduated from preschool and my presence was important to him and my brother (his dad). Sad I missed you but I was in the right place being present with my family….
Hope to meet you soon.
Dr. DeeDee,
I love you and I admire and take notes of your example of love towards your family.
Always,
Gwen
Awesome reminder, Dr Dee Dee. Thank you for sharing and bringing this important reminder to our remembrance – especially on today. Happy Memorial Day to all!!!
Amen!😢
Sadly as a Pastor, I’ve witnessed many people experience death of a love one grieve without end after they leave that cemetery. Unable to move forward because of the guilt and regrets that’s now become a stronghold resulting in the desire to have a session of confession with a corpse. I refuse to allow that to be my testimony! Family is as marrow is to the bone, a vital part of ministry life. Yet in many cases they’re the most neglected.
Thanks Dr Dee Dee!
This is extra special good! Accept for Jesus, there is no one like your family. I believe they are first before ministry because we are suppose to minister to them first. They are our first congregation, our first students, and our first discipled ones. Such wisdom Dr. Dee Dee. Be Blessed and keep wisdom coming. Happy Memorial’s Day.
Thank You! This was a good and meaningful read Pastor, Sister, Dr. Dee Dee. I was headed to a friends house after church to eat some crabs and I thought about my mother. So, I said let me check on her to see how she’s was doing. When I arrived to visit with her for a moment or two. She stated she wanted to see her sister so we went to visit with her. Once we arrived there. There was a house full of my cousins and friends. We did not know they were having a Birthday Party for my Aunts Grand-baby. My auntie was so happy to see her sister and I was happy to see and to catch up with my cousins. I wanted to know what they were doing and pursuing. I shared all of that to say this. Just because a thought came to my mind to check on my mother we end up celebrating my cousins and having a great time because she wanted to see her sister. Wow, God is so good! It was like a mini family reunion. #Grateful
Beautiful reminder of family is most important <3
Thank you so much for the words. You hit my hurt right on time. That’s why l love your show. And the words you give me. Thank you soooo much.
Thank you for ALL that you do and the reminder that memories with family comes first and foremost.
Love You Dr DeeDee 😘❤️
I have set you as my top role model for the empty nest/adult children chapter I am transitioning into. Thank you for sharing this. I have enjoyed being in my children’s lives and it is refreshing to know that that doesn’t have to completely stop once they are out of the house. This really ministried to me. Thank you again! ❤️
Thank you for this Family does matter.
That’s so cool!! I’ll continue to make time for the people I love bc I love them. Great post…love the pic
Thank you for sharing this incredible moment with us and it speaks to the woman,mother,and person you are but most of all for me it say that God can use you even in the small things you will obey His voice and move on His behalf even when you don’t understand which makes me honor the God in you!!!I love you and Pastor Mike ministry and maybe one day I will get to share with you how I came to watch you guys ministry. …it truly is a testimony ❤
Thank you Dr. Dee Dee, for your impartation into the lives near and far. Creating memories is vitally important for me with my family! I appreciate you reminding us to be there for our Family!
❤️I Love You Dr. Dee Dee!
Hey🙋🏾 Dr.DeeDee
My HEART❤️ hear what you are saying.
Thanks for your encouragement.
Until next life lesson
You are so right on point, I always tell my friends that people don’t know you care until you show you care. DeeDee you were a blessing at the WOW 2017 and you are funny. I love how you are so real!!!
Thank you for this family is important I talk to my beautiful daughters alot we get together all the time to just have fun I tell them all the time I love them all the time when we are on the phone.
Love demonstrated. “Don’t allow your loved ones to be looking for you while you are standing right there.” It is my desire to be “Sighted and Standing” in the life of my son…while he continues to grow into self sufficiency. Oh, and my family too! LOL Thank you Dr. Dee Dee!
Amen, Loved the advice.
Thank you Dr. Dee Dee
Yes indeedy Dr. Dee Dee! I’ve learned this more and more over the years. Family matters and family first. As I grow older in years and younger in heart I’m yearning more and more to make moments matter. Thank you for your words of wisdom and encouragement! Much Love!!!
I am just speechless (and almost teary eyed as well (:))! All I can say is, very well spoken and very well received! Thank you my sister!
Sweet!!! Nothing like family!!!
This!!!
“People are tired of hearing about how much you care it’s time to show them”
🙌🏾🙌🏾
Dr. Dee Dee I really appreciate your thoughtfulness, the care, the love you show towards your adult children. you have always been an inspiration To me as to how to live my life and treat my family. I’ve only been a partner of SOFCC for four years and each time I attend I find strength and learn something new all the time. I thank God for you and Pastor Mike. I love you both my man and woman of God.
Reminds me of a core truth my Mom taught me. She said, “Charity begins at home, and then it is shed abroad.” Love that woman even now as she is with Jesus rejoicing a part of that great cloud of witnesses. Love you, Dr. Dee Dee. Counting the days to GGG!!!!!!!!
Thanks Dr. DeeDee!
I make myself available to support my children and my grandsons. It really shows how much they appreciate me taking the time to be present or help with whatever they are apart of.
I Love my Family ❤️
We can b in the presence of our loved ones physically but r we there mentally, emotionally? It’s all about the quality of the time. This is truly a reminder and an example of prioritizing & balancing! Thank u your Godly wisdom!
Wowwww your messages are always on time.. I Appreciate you!!!
Great words of wisdom! Too often we take things for granted, and unfortunately our families suffer in the interim. I am determined to make moments matter bcuz moments is what they’ll remember when I’ve transitioned on to be with Jesus.
Awesome read this morning. It blessed my life and gave me clarity, wisdom & knowledge. Thank u
Thanks for the reminder that our adult children still need to know we love ❤️ them just as much now than when they were kids. The more they grow our LOVE for them should be growing as well.
Thanks for life lessons that show Gods love ❤️ & what’s important: family 👩👧👦
Awesome Dr Dee Dee! My mother is no longer with us but when she was here she would do things just like that! You rock!!!
This was awesome and so helpful! This has actually been on my heart a lot lately, being more present for family and friends. This is such an important topic and I’m glad that God put it on your heart to share that with us.
Awesome blog Family Matters! Thanks for sharing.
Yes, ma’am. I appreciate you!
Dr. DeeDee, your love for Pastor Mike, your adult children and your grandkisses are unequivocally evident! I love how you love!
WOW!! SO TRUE, WE SPEND TIME WITH OUTSIDE OF BLOOD FAMILY AND EXPECT OUR PARENTS/CHILDREN TO UNDERSTAND…WELL I JUST GOT A SLAP OF REALITY. I WILL MAKE TIME FOR MY MOTHER SHE HAS BEEN ASKING…MY ANSWER IS MOMA ALRIGHT…WHEN I THINK ..RIGHT NOW SHE IS GETTING OLDER AND I NEED TO MAKE THE TIME ALONG WITH MY CHILDREN..YES I LOVE OUR MINISTRY, BUT I LOVE MY CHILDREN /MOMA.
THANK YOU DR.DEE DEE
LOVE YOU SO MUCH
EVERY mother should read this!
Thanks Dr. Dee Dee for the reminder to be really involved!!
AWESOME,WORDS OF ENCOURAGEMENT,THANK YOU
Thank you for the reminder. I make it a point to make memories, but just this reminder to keep in the front of my mind is awesome. I don’t have children, however I do want my family to know and understand that they hold that position in my life.
Good Morning Dr. Dee Dee, this is so true! I just had this conversation as Pastor’s we will try to make it to all of the member’s events, but make excuses for our family. I missed so much, but no more there has to be a balance in ministry. Family will always have your back; and you cannot get back what you missed in their lives! Thank you again for the powerful word of Reality…
This article truly blessed me…. such words of wisdom! We currently live in a time when parents don’t realize the importance of providing support for their children. Our young people need affirmation, encouragement and love. I never wanted to say, “I wish I would have”. As a young mother,I never wanted to be in a position to have to regret something that I should have done for my daughter. Dr. Dee, I’m so thankful for your heart to share basic knowledge needed for this generation. I pray that the guidance shared in these blogs will impact many lives.